Archive for June 5th, 2012

Tuesday, June 5th, 2012 by Sasha White
Words To Live By

I’ve had various critique partners over the years. Some have been friends, some not. Some stick around for a long time, others don’t. It can be hard to maintain things what with schedules and life and, often, only being in touch through the internet. Vanessa Jaye is someone who’s both critique partner, and friend, to me. And she has been for about 8 years. Despite not keeping in touch everyday, or sharing everything, she’s one of my closest friends who has listened to me whine about balance, and weightloss and writing, and well…you get the idea. So, when she emailed me today, and I read the email, I asked her to post it here…Please welcome talented author, and my friend, Vanessa Jaye.


I’ve been striving to find balance in my life for some time now. Trust me, it’s kinda hard to get the old creative juices flowing when your stress is at defcon level 1. Today a friend emailed me this list and it really struck a chord, enough so that I promptly forwarded the list to a bunch of other friends (Sasha included). I figure if we could all remember to do at least half this list on a consistent basis, we’d all be on a pretty even keel.
1. Never borrow from the future. If you worry about what may happen tomorrow and it doesn’t happen, you have worried in vain. Even if it does happen, you have to worry twice.
2. As long as you wake up in the morning, you have one more day to change your circumstances.
3. Pray or meditate.
4. Get enough rest. Go to bed on time.
5. Get up on time so you can start the day unrushed.
6. Say ‘No’ to projects that won’t fit into your time schedule, or that will compromise your mental health.
7. Delegate tasks to capable others.
8. Simplify and unclutter your life.
9. Less is more. (Although one is often not enough, two are often too many.)
10. Allow extra time to do things and to get to places.
11. Pace yourself. Spread out big changes and difficult projects over time; don’t lump the hard things all together.
12. Take one day at a time.
13. Live within your budget; don’t use credit cards for ordinary purchases.
14. Have backups; an extra car key in your wallet, an extra house key buried in the garden, extra stamps, etc.
15. K.M.S. (Keep Mouth Shut). This single piece of advice can prevent an enormous amount of trouble.
16. Do something for the Kid in You every day.
17. Carry a Book with you to read while waiting in line.
18. Eat right.
19. Get organized so everything has its place.
20. Listen to a tape while driving that can help improve your quality of life.
21. Write down thoughts and inspirations.
22. Every day, find time to be alone.
23. Make friends with positive people.
24. Keep a folder of favorite sayings or scriptures on hand.
25. Laugh.
26. Laugh some more!
27. Take your work seriously, but not yourself at all.
28. Develop a forgiving attitude (most people are doing the best they can).
29. Be kind to unkind people (they probably need it the most).
30. Sit on your ego.
31. Talk less; listen more.
32. Slow down.
33. Remind yourself that you are not the general manager of the universe.
34. Remember that the shortest bridge between despair and hope is often gratitude. Every night before bed, think of one thing you’re grateful for that you’ve never been grateful for before.

Vanessa Jaye writes the stories she likes to read, romances with emotion, humor and a whole lot of sexy, in several subgenres. She likes her heroes edgy and her heroines more than woman enough for the men that love them. Visit her at

Vanessa’s Latest Release:

His darkest secret could be her only hope.
Tessa Archer is sick of sitting on the sidelines of life, but the man she’s just met on her first Caribbean cruise is way out of her comfort zone. He’s dazzlingly handsome, compelling…and she swears she can hear his voice in her head before he speaks.

When Nathan Barcza touches Tessa’s hand, the jolt of recognition is unmistakable—and impossible. Werewolves mate only once—for life—and his mate was murdered by the creature he hunts, a Pithcus that hides somewhere aboard this ship. This is his final chance for vengeance.

The last thing he can afford is any distraction, but the siren call of Tessa’s open heart is irresistible. It also makes her a target of the creature who’s had a taste of her and wants more. To save her, Nate will have to unleash his last secret in a confrontation with no hope of survival.

For if the Pithcus doesn’t kill him, Nate’s partner is under orders to finish the job…

“A short novel but it really packs a punch. This is a very creative story and not your typical shifter scenario.” — Nookmom, Bitten by Paranormal Romance, 4 out of 5 – a pack howl!